Think Daily Messages
Many of us say we have disadvantages that put us behind and make it harder for us to be successful.
A poor family growing up, dyslexia, a physical handicap, a less than ideal school, a tough neighborhood, friends who made really bad choices, rough parents, and so much more.
Sure, these things may be no fun at the time, and for some, leave a mark forever. But perhaps more often, what these conditions do to us and how they shape our character can be considered strengths. You can be more resilient, smarter in that way, or street wise. While one personal characteristic is missing, others are sharpened. Or maybe you just know what you DON’T want and/or have developed a burning desire for what you DO want.
What “disadvantages” did you have? How are these advantages now or in your future?
A victim asks this question out of fear, and tries to justify his failure to try.
A victor asks this question to understand the consequences, make an informed decision, and to chase away fear by deciding in advance to be willing to accept failure. The victor ALSO asks, “What if I succeed?” to motivate himself, and weighs the answer against his greater goals.
Weigh your options – as a victor.
Scenario #1 – Man meets woman, they fall in love, both work, they get married and move into household “A” and have children. Either one of them stops working to care for the children or they both continue to work and pay for daycare. Things are great.
Scenario #2 – Man meets woman, they fall in love, both work, they get married (or not) and move into household “A” and have children. Then they split up, he moves out and moves into household “B”, which he cannot afford while paying for child support and alimony back at household “A”. She likely cannot afford day care so stops working to care for the children on very little income. No fun for anybody.
They both struggle financially supporting two households (likely on one income) and have to reduce their standard of living. (Obviously a one-parent household is not ideal for the children in most cases).
What is my point? I would not give advice on divorce – I’m sure there are some people that should not be together. But this is how it turns out financially in most cases and it should be well known so (young) people can do whatever they can to avoid getting into this position in the first place.