What are you good at?

When people are not good at anything, they do not feel good about themselves.

For example, we can be average at work, and not great at some things, but when we step on the basketball court, we are good, and we know it.  Guess what we find ourselves doing a lot? Playing basketball.  And we get even better.

When we are good at things, we feel good about ourselves.

What are you good at?

That is probably the source of a good deal of our self-esteem.

We all have the talent and capacity to be good at something. 

Find it.

Heal ourselves, heal everything around us

This is something I found true.

If I am troubled, I live in a troubled world.

If I am unclear, the world is too.

If I am hurting, sick, heartbroken, angry, or bitter, the world will reflect my ailments and be ugly or cruel or cloudy.

When I get well, the world does too.

As we heal ourselves, we heal each other.

As we heal each other, we heal the world.

After all, nobody talks to me more than I do.

I am my world.  You are yours.

When you heal, your world does.

When you come together, your world does too.

You go first.

Fear and faith

Both fear and faith ask you to believe in something you can’t see. 

You choose.

This is an important choice.  It could mean everything, and probably will.

Fear or faith?

You can’t change the people around you

You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.

If the people around you are holding you back, bringing you down, and not supporting your moving forward, change the people around you.

Your reference group, the people you associate with, has a LOT to do with where you end up.

Who are the five people you spend the most time with or listen to the most?

Hate hurts you

If you hate someone, then you are defeated by him. – Confucious

You know it’s true.  Hate is hurting you more than the other guy.  It’s eating you up inside, costing you valuable energy.

It’s draining your happiness.  

Let it go.

Stop tuning into voices that say you are right, reinforcing your hate.

Let it go – for your own sake.

Evolving beyond your friends

Most of us have friends who are about like us.  Same interests, same vocabulary, same habits, and same level of success.

We like people who are like us.  

The problem is they keep reinforcing a life that we already know the results of when we live it.  If we want more and better, we have to learn new things, talk in different ways, and take different actions.  We will have to give up (some or all) of the old activities in favor of something new that yields better results.

Many of our friends won’t like that.

They don’t like it when you evolve beyond their own comfort zone.  They don’t like it when you do what they are unwilling to do but know they should.  They don’t like it when you are doing better than them and making them look bad.  

There are exceptions.  A real friend who truly cares about you will want you to do better even if you leave them behind.

If you have friends who want to hold you down for their sake, you don’t have to tell them you are right and they are wrong, or say goodbye.  You don’t have to say anything at all.  Just stop hanging around them (so much).

You have a life to build.  Move forward.

And don’t worry, you’ll make plenty of new friends on the way up.

Believe and achieve.

You have to believe good things are possible for them to energize you.

If I told you that you could be one of the top people in your field with all the things that come with it, if you want that and believe it, you will pursue it.  You will do the things necessary to get there.  Your belief will push you through setbacks and obstacles.

If you do not believe me, and/or you do not want it, there is no hope for you.

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

Do you have a big goal and BELIEVE it is possible for you?

Master yourself first

“In reading the lives of great men, I found the first victory they won was over themselves.” – Harry S. Truman

If you cannot control your lower impulses, control your attention, think before acting, delay gratification, and do what is right instead of what is easy and what feels good, then you will always have trouble of your own making.

You are your enemy/obstruction/problem, or your best friend and instrument of progress and good.  

Your choice.

Nothing will advance your success and fulfillment more than self-mastery.

Imagination

“Logic will get you from point A to point B, but Imagination will take you anywhere.” -Albert Einstein

Think.  Dream.  It’s the origin of innovation, creation, and adventure. 

Why not? 

Imagine – go nuts.

Being good, and doing good.

Being good is a start.  First do no harm and do not be a burden.

But DOING good – that is something different and better.

“What greater bliss than to look back on days spent in usefulness, in doing good to those around us.” – Dorthea Dix

What good needs doing?  

You’re up.