You should want to be something you are not.

Did that get your attention?

“What the heck kind of advice is that?” you ask.  

Shouldn’t I be happy with who I am?  Isn’t disliking who I am a cause for a lot of psychological trouble?

Yes. It is.

But I did not say that you should dislike who you are.

I said we should want to be something we aren’t. Yet.

I see people with no goals, and they are literally “aimless”.

We need to have goals.  Goals we really want AND believe are possible for us.  Goals that are not attained yet.

Those goals will take us out of our comfort zones.  

Those goals will give us a reason to get up in the morning.  

Those goals will get us out of our comfort zones.

Those goals will have us learning new things, stretching, being creative and courageous.

Those goals will chase away boredom and depression, get us excited and bring out the best in us.

At age 62, after accomplishing much, I have more of these goals.  I need these goals. 

And because I set out to accomplish goals in the past and did not give up, I am a more capable and better equipped person to achieve new ones today.

What do you want to be/do or have that you are not/do not now?

Can you write it down?

There is no excitement inside your comfort zone

I knew a couple who seemed to do well, but they always said no to invitations.  They had their routine, and they didn’t want to get out of it.

“Do you want to come to the party?”  “Well, we’ll see what we have going on.”   

“Do you want to try riding this thing?  It’s easy.  My daughter is riding it, see?”  “No, no, that’s not my thing.”

“Do you want to shoot this bow, or play cornhole, or go camping with us?”  “No, I’m good.”

But there was something sad inside of them.  There was no spice in life, no excitement.

Habits make life easier.  Good habits will get good results that compound.  But don’t forget to break the routine.

They say that at the end of life, people regret the things they did NOT do more than the things they did.

When you have a weekend where you do something new and out of your box, isn’t that exciting?  Aren’t you talking about it for a long time?

A few years ago, we scheduled a day where my wife, Marie, and I would go skydiving.  We actually accepted an invitation to go with another couple.  Well, Marie was so nervous, she didn’t speak for a couple days beforehand.  We drove there, and she was silent with fear.

The place ascended.  She almost threw up.  When she landed, she yelled, “That was the greatest thing I’ve ever done!”

This is life, everyone!  This is our chance.  

All growth and a lot of excitement live outside your comfort zone.

Go get it!  Try new things!

Do you need to do well, or want to?

What is your primary driver, need or want?

Four differences between needers and wanters – 

1) Needing is extrinsically motivated, where wanting is internally motivated.

2) Needing is security driven.  Wanting is freedom driven.

3) Needing is scarcity minded.  Wanting is abundance minded.

4) Needing is reactive.  Wanting is creative.

What drives you?  Need?  Or want?

What would you do to kick your own ass?

If you were your competitor, knowing what you know about your company’s vulnerabilities, what would you do to kick your ass?

Fix that.  

Do that.

Treat people as good as you are

Don’t treat people as bad as they are.  They may live up to your assessment in dealing with you.

Treat people as good as you are.  (I am assuming you are damn good!)  They will elevate themselves when they are with you.