You can’t change other people

Some people think that they will be happy if they could just change a few other people to be more like they want them to be.

Maybe it’s their coworkers, their friends, their spouse or their kids.

They spend their life trying to make this happen.  But it is futile.

People don’t change.  And if they do, it won’t be because you wanted them to.

The only person you can change is yourself.  That is cool because it is in your direct control.  And by changing yourself, other people and situations will look very different.

Listen to this audio track from my Blueprint album – 

Blueprint – “Something Different”

Move up by solving problems and making decisions

Some people do not understand how to grow in importance and salary at work.

Problems?  Many people stand around waiting for someone else to solve the problem.  Maybe they don’t know how to solve the problems, or they don’t see it as their job, or they don’t have the courage to speak up.

If YOU solve problems and make decisions, that makes you more valuable and harder to replace.

When you take responsibility for the solutions to those problems, that is really good.

You will also earn the right to solve more problems.

Some problems are easy to solve and don’t move big needles too much.  Still, they need to be solved. 

Some problems are complex.  Some are more important when it comes to the results they get with customers, with sales, or with profits.

The more valuable the problems you solve, the more valuable the results are.

This is how you move up and do higher-value work.

If you change, everything will change for you.

Jim Rohn – what a guy.  He’s gone now but his counsel is timeless. 

You can listen to him on YouTube.  AI is amazing – bringing people back to life.

The core of his teaching – 

If you get better, everything will get better for you.

People who complain and people who are angry at the world because it is not easier….Jim would give them this advice.

By blaming anything but yourself, you give your power away to them/it.  You are saying they are responsible for your situation and not you.  This gives you a convenient way to avoid responsibility and for doing the work to get better.  You are off the hook – it is someone else’s fault.

But when you take responsibility for everything in your life, it is at the same time sobering and empowering.  Now you have the power to change it.  You still need the will and resolve, the courage, the knowledge, and the self-discipline, but you have taken the important first step.  You have taken responsibility.

The world is your reflection.

If you change, everything will change for you.

We discount free information.

People value advice more if they have paid for it, even if it is the same as advice they got or can get for free somewhere else.

Do you really need to pay for weight loss advice?

Do you really need to pay for, let’s say, “adult education”?

The answer is no.  Of course, if what you want is a support system and someone holding you accountable because you don’t have self-discipline, then that is a “value-added service” that comes with the advice.

Consider Think Daily.  It’s free.  How many of you have your teen or older kids signed up?  How many of your kids would even want to be signed up and read it every day?

I have kids, I know!  Some do, some don’t.  Why?  As Jim Rohn would say, “We don’t know why.  That’s just the way it is.”

How many of you have spent your life savings sending them to college?

Good information and advice is still good regardless of where it is from, whether it is from your grandmother, your Dad, your pastor, your professor, in a book, or in a YouTube video.

You’ll get better at recognizing good from bad quickly as you learn more and try things.  That’s called wisdom.

Who are the five people you spend the most time with?

You probably already know Jim Rohn’s line: “You become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”

Question to consider: WHO are YOUR 5? 

If you mixed them up in a blender, what quality of character, values, thinking, and actions do you get?