Tolerant of others, strict on yourself

“In others, look for virtue.  In thyself, look for vice” – Ben Franklin

When it comes to others, you cannot expect them to live, act, or behave to your standards.  It’s not possible since everyone has different standards and ways to live, so nobody could possibly please everyone else. Same with you.

But when it comes to yourself, set high standards and have the self-discipline to adhere to them.

When you are your own high standards maker and disciplinarian, you don’t have to be corrected by others, have the most freedom, and are set up for progress and success.

There is no “easy button”

There is no easy button.  There is no get-rich-quick.  There is no avoiding problems.

Work hard and smart, or have the problems from not working hard and smart.

Face reality or get smacked by it.

Be nice or get treated poorly.

Be strong or feel like you’re not.

You’re going to pay for something.

It may as well be fare to get somewhere, instead of nowhere.

Chicken or egg?

Did the fact cause the belief,  or the belief cause the fact?

If you don’t believe something is possible for you, it simply isn’t.  You won’t try.  If you do try, you won’t give it your all.  You will quit easily.

“See, I was right” you’ll say.

But if you believe strongly you can and you WILL do a thing, there’s a high probability it will come true. 

You’ll give it everything you’ve got for as long as it takes.

“See, I was right, you’ll say.”

Indeed.

Embrace reality

If you run from it or deny it, it is yours.

But if you can embrace reality, you can do something about it.

Take responsibility.

Then you can make it better.

What do you need to accept now?

Develop your capabilities

How can you become more valuable?  Improve your capabilities.  Learn more.  

When you can solve more problems, help more people, have more skills, become more useful, and make yourself harder to replace, you will earn more money.

Read.  Practice.  Learn from other experts.

What other capacities can you develop now?