The one who influences us the most…

“It was hard to communicate with you.  You were always communicating with yourself.  The line was busy.” – Jean Kerr

We talk to ourselves constantly.

Over and over, we hear messages, beliefs, and reinforcements.

What are you saying?

He who thinks he can….

Belief builds reality. 

There’s “He who thinks he can” – who goes out there and figures it out and does it.

Equally, there’s “He who thinks he can’t” – who just can’t do it – because he believes he can’t, he doesn’t try.  

Belief is a very powerful factor in achievement.

What do you believe you can and can’t do?

Crises awakens your potential

Your greatest strengths emerge when they are forced out of you; when you HAVE to do things you wouldn’t normally do, or do yet.

A crisis reveals what you can do when you have to.

And now that you know, the fence you constructed in your mind gets moved out.

What crisis in your life had you doing things you’d never have done otherwise?

“This is not happening to me, it’s happening for me.” – Sean Stephenson

Self-Control

“Not being able to govern events, I govern myself.” – Michel de Montaigne

While I can influence things, I can’t control what happens all the time.  I am in charge of what bothers me.  I am in charge of my reactions.

I am getting better and better at this with practice when opportunities come up.

It’s not that I do not care, it’s that I choose not to suffer over things that don’t go the way I wanted or expected.  

Practice this.  The next time you get bad news, or when people say something you don’t like, take a moment and make a conscious decision not to react, outwardly or even inwardly.

This type of self-control is freedom – not from circumstance, but from inner choice.

Flow state sessions

To get into flow, we must be free of distractions and have total control over what we are doing.

It goes for physical work and mental work.

I do my best work when I am in flow state.  I can’t always just get into flow when I want.  I need to be well rested and in a quiet place.  

When I do get into flow – when my mind is working well, I am fully engaged, and the project is coming out of me, I stay with it to take advantage of the productive “session”.

Do you have quiet spaces where you can get into flow? 

Do you take advantage of the time and stay with it?

The opening after the storm

Not all storms come to disrupt your life. 

Some come to clear your path.

It’s true.  Ask me how I know.

Don’t give up. 

Take advantage of it.

Live on purpose

There’s a lot out there in the world.  Your choices shape your life.

You have to be clear on what you want your life to look like and you have to be clear about your boundaries.

Live on purpose, according to your choices, not by whatever comes along.

You have to determine what gets your attention, energy and time.

You are in charge of you.

What is getting your attention, energy and time?

Event – Story – Meaning – Emotions – Actions (and changing history)

Something happens.  Ok.  It happened.  Then what?

Then you made a story about it.  You replayed that story over and over and assigned it meaning – “This event shows that…”

The story and meaning elicit emotions from you.

Those emotions release chemicals into your bloodstream that make you feel good or bad.

Your bahavior or actions changes based on those emotions.

Question – was it the event, or the story you told over and over that were the most influential?

In the event you may have not had any choice.  But in the story and meaning, you have ALL the choice.

You get to make the story and the meaning.

The really cool thing is that you can assign NEW meaning to things that happened a long time ago – you can literally change history.

Attitudes are valued skills or liabilities

Imagine this – two people have identical skills; one delivers their work with kindness, helpfulness, and a positive attitude and the other with a grimace, strife and negativity.

Which gets promoted?  Which gets a raise?  Which gets terminated if work gets slow?  Which makes the sale?  Which has more friends to help them?  

Which are you?

Faith outperforms fear

Strong belief in your vision creates possibility and momentum.

Weak or fearful thinking invites failure.

Do you have faith or fear?