Worthy – not because someone else says so

People who look for validation and permission from others that they are worthy and valuable are looking outside themselves.  This is risky and will result in an emotional rollercoaster of a life as people like you or do not like you for their own reasons that you cannot control.

I know – it’s not easy sometimes.  We all need love.  And it’s there for everyone if we are open and kind.

We need to see ourselves as worthy and valuable not because anyone else says so – we need to just know it regardless of what anyone else says. 

It’s in you, not out there. 

And when you see that, you will attract others who see it too.

Cry – Laugh – Rethink

Often when you grow the most is when you are having a difficult time and things go wrong. 

A crisis can teach us a lot – if we don’t change our identity to “I’m the one who has problems and bad luck”.

Feel the problem and then let it go right through you.  Don’t hold on to it or resist it.

Then rethink and learn.

Onward….smarter now…..

Be the you that you were made to be.

“Happiness is given to those who use to the fullest whatever talents God or luck or fate has bestowed upon them.” – -Leo Rosten

You have talents.  Develop them into specific skills.  Then find a place/position that needs and values those talents.

Satisfying, meaningful happiness

“The happiness that is genuinely satisfying is accompanied by the fullest exercise of our faculties, and the fullest realization of the world in which we live.”  – Bertrand Russell

Which would make you happier and feel meaning in your life for more than a few days – 

A – Retiring, playing golf, hanging around and drinking beer each day (or your version of this example).

B – Becoming your best self by developing your natural talents and getting better all the time, and making a difference in others lives.

Let me know your comments with the orange button!

Feeling disconnected?

Turn off the electronics and sit down and talk to somebody.

Fix your thinking

“I do not fix problems.  I fix my thinking.  The problems fix themselves.” – Louise Hay

What problem do you have, that if you fix your thinking about it, will relieve you of the problem without actually doing anything else?

Urgent and Important are not the same

Urgent is answer that phone, return the text, respond to others…

Important is what will have the biggest and most lasting impact to your future.

What is most important for you to do (take care of) right now?

Answer the question.

What is most important for you to do (take care of) right now?

Being your own problem

Sometimes you thinking there is something wrong becomes what is wrong.

Your mind believes what is vividly imagined.  We tend to believe our own thoughts.  

And if we are convinced there is something wrong, we can make it come true.

Be careful what you tell yourself and believe.

If only I had more time….

“Die first.  Then you can go about the business of living.” – Ekhart Tolle

Living each day knowing that your time here is limited, you’ll wind up living a fuller life with less regrets for what you did not do.

A great life is not a safe one.

“If you want to live a good and full life, you cannot keep asking “Is it safe”. – Dennis Prager

There will be risks – in relationships, in getting out of your comfort zone, putting yourself out there…all kinds of risks.

But taking them is to not take the ultimate risk – wasting your life by not taking risks.