“In others, look for virtue. In yourself, look for vice” – Ben Franklin
Look for the good in others, and look for areas you can get better in your own life.
If you do this, you will have many friends who are happy to see you, and you will be humble. And after years of trying to fix or neutralize your flaws and improve your strengths, you’ll be pretty damn good.
It’s easy to see how living this the other way around can get you in trouble.
If you “Looked for the flaws in others and the virtue in yourself”. That’s not going to work out too well. People will hate you as you think you are better than them (you aren’t) and you won’t be trying to get better.
In looking for virtue in others and vice in yourself, what you are doing is holding yourself to a higher standard than everybody else.
Meeting a higher standard than others is a good way to become better than average.
Don’t you think?