When you think of that person, or that place, or that group, or that time…you feel it all over again.
But it’s over. It has been over – yet you still feel the same way – and it’s eating you up.
You have memorized the emotion. You have anchored an emotional state to the event. The event is over, but you still feel it and relive it.
Time to realize it’s you now. Anchor a new emotional state to the memory and overwrite the one you associate with it now.
Do this – think about it again, and force yourself to smile. Sit up straight and smile, even though you don’t feel like smiling. Say confidently outloud, “It’s ok. You know what, it’s ok.” Think about it more. Bring back the details. Smile and say “It’s ok.” Smile bigger. Breathe. Envision it (them, what happened). Smile and say “It’s over, and it’s really ok.” Keep that smile.
Do this a few times over a few days in a row.
Anchor a new emotion to the memory, and be a lighter soul.
Thanks, a good message for the day!
This was great Larry! Thanks for your daily inspiration.
Mary
I look forward to your thoughts each day. This one really resonated with me today. Thank you!!!
This is the best one yet – it’s hard when you have the memory of an elephant.
This is a great message for those us of who have a sometime destructive habit of not forgiving ourselves for mistakes we make. This theme is something you have written about often, and one of the most helpful for me.
Thanks
This is a great read. A great reminder of how beholden we can be and a even greater reminder that we can achieve change with intention.
Thanks Larry
Recently I had an employee that quit on me because the grass was so much greener on the other side. I was reminded that “we water our own grass.” Just found out that, that person, that I often think about, just got downsized from that new job. I found out today that, that person wrote a nasty review of me and my company over a year and 1/2 ago while still working for me. Funny I smiled and said out loud “that’s a shame she/he has to be that way” now I will add “it’s over, and it’s really ok.” Good one!
Hi Larry! I enjoy reading your messages. Thanks for the daily motivation! Miss you all!
I find that I need to be vigilant and maintain awareness of these emotions or like a good cookie they seem to be addictive. So after eating and enjoying a cookie I will now say “it’s over, it’s really OK”, before I grab another
I appreciated this thought… a lot!
As long as I have some kind of closure where I can verbalize my internal feelings allowing myself to see the benefit in the experience I am usually capable to make peace. What I can not make peace with is the fact when people look at me funny for expressing my appreciation, gratitude or genuine feelings towards someone, I refuse to feel shamed for telling someone they are handsome, attractive, awesome, funny or that I like spending time with them or that I think they have a gold heart even though they sometimes do not see themselves in a similar fashion. Everyone needs a pillar and support at certain stages of their lives.
And in one form or another I will speak my mind. Sometimes through tears, lack of words, a knot in the throat, listening ears, written words, action, a hug, a smile … there are so many ways one can express feelings and thoughts.