“Good with people”

You know a few – people who are half as smart as you and half as talented – but they get twice the results with others.

Chances are they are just better with people.  Attitude, respect, communication, personality, caring, optimism – and just plain smiling.

Are you “good with people”?

Overwriting

Years have passed and we learned a lot of stuff through experience.  We made some of it mean things about ourselves – “I can’t”, “we can’t”, “I’ll never be…”, “I’m just a…”.

But it’s never too late to learn new things and make new decisions about ourselves.

If you don’t like it, don’t accept it.

The age of infinite wisdom

What age is that? It can be 10, 17, 23, 44 or 68.  It’s whatever age you find yourself saying “I know” a lot.  And because you know it all, there is simply no way you can learn more.

How would that work for someone?

How to be an effective, happy human

That’s what we have to learn.  How does our mind work?  How do we produce feelings of happiness and fulfillment and satisfaction?  When we feel things go wrong, how do we correct it inside us?

Learning how to operate what we are – there doesn’t seem to be much more important than that.

Blinded by being right

As soon as you are convinced you’re right, you lose your ability to find out what right is.

Instead we could say “This is my best (guess, interpretation or position) now, but I’m open to understanding more about it.”

Are your positions fixed?

Why we want the income gap to INCREASE

People at the bottom earn zero.  Zero will always be zero, and there will always be people who do things or don’t do things that cause them to earn zero.  (This is not to say we shouldn’t help and teach them so they can produce more than zero).

At the top are people who earn the most.  You can’t get lower than zero, but you can get more than a lot.  

Do we want the people who earn the most to earn less so we can say they are closer to zero than they were?  Would it be a sign of a healthy growing economy for all if the top did worse? Or do we want everyone to do better no matter who they are, understanding there will always be some people at zero?

Self Confidence

Nobody knows what you’ve been up to, whether you can be trusted, or what your abilities are better than you.  Other people figure that you know you best, and if YOU aren’t confident in yourself, then why should they be?

Prepare, do things you are proud of, and maintain your integrity to yourself and others.  Then, when you are confident in yourself it will show, and others will have confidence in you, too.  

Urgency and Deadlines = Productivity

If a flood was coming, you get the sandbag wall built NOW.  If you’re having a party tomorrow night, you get the house clean NOW.  If the paper is due tomorrow, you get it done NOW.  It’s amazing what you can get done when you HAVE to.  

But the opposite is true.  The idea that we have plenty of time lulls our brain into low gear and delays action.  The most productive people create self-imposed deadlines.  They expect a lot out of themselves – and they get it.

Are you moving your agenda forward with urgency every day? 

Leadership begins with you

If people see that you can’t manage your own affairs, you can’t put clean trouble free days together, have bad habits, and don’t take care of yourself, then why would they follow you, give you more responsibility, or give you a leadership position?

Lead yourself first.

Me first – it’s okay

The world can’t be a happy place unless you are happy.

Take care of yourself first.  Go ahead.  It’s ok.