A great reminder of an attitude we should have top of mind everyday. Very much like the Secret; what you project is what you attract.

I agree 1000%

Thanks for the reminder ?

I find this to be so true Larry! I have a big heart anyways and can’t stay mad for very long, but I find it better for ME to forgive so I CAN be happy! Have a great day and once again thanks for your wisdom!

Words of wisdom! Great comments too!

What a wonderful message of truth on how to live a contented and rewarding life. Thank you.

Now that one was deep. Well spoken.

Excellent Blog Larry “Let Go” Thanks

Sorry Larry for you’re loss with the house and contents.. I remember the day I live close by.. Hope you’re family is well today. Peter

Love the depth of this post. While I’ve been a believer in “not loving things that cannot love you back”, I do struggle with the thought of not having attachments to people. Things are easy for me as I do not equate my worth to material things (yes even money) but after the relationship with myself, I feel that my relationships with others are what makes my life “richer” and more beautiful. So does that mean I’m attached to certain people? yes! And it’s an attachment that nourishes and fuels me. Obviously I know that we are all just here for a visit but the vulnerability in giving a part of myself to another is well worth whatever feelings of loss may come when that relationship changes. Thoughts?

To practice non-attachment is so much easier than to go along and do the hard work that is required to hang on. I can say I do not care and stop acting in a specific manner, follow or help certain people, I can change my thoughts to alleviate the pain and eradicate suffering. I can shelter my heart, body and mind by saying it doesn’t matter, it is not important. It is over, it is done, it is gone. But am I right? Am I more connected and less alone? Am I more authentic or am I a clown?

You mean build or destroy? but lets be more authentic and combine the two actions and just call it transform. Let us transform and change our lives to serve as a greater purpose to our families, neighbors, teams, businesses, and world in general.

If this is not “flying high” I do not know what else is.

It is called flying high because you are 100% true to who you really are deep down. I saw many people who stuck with a persona of their self because they felt that was being responsible while in reality they could have done a greater good admitting what they really wanted or how they felt.

I was sad one day and went for a walk. At one point I couldn’t hold the hot tears from rolling down my cheeks or the whimpers escape my being or the trembles to shake my body. I sat down and I allowed myself the freedom to went. As I was processing from the corner of my eye I caught a shadow walking towards me. I instantly composed myself and shut down. The shadow sensed my mood, stopped and allowed me the space and time to recoup. Moments passed by when she approached and coerced her dogie in my direction. Do you want to pet her? she asked. I nodded and lifted my palm for the dogie to sniff. She brushed against my hand knowing that I needed to pet her soft hair and smooth head.

If it wasn’t for that unknown woman and her decision to approach and offer her pets comforting I would be ok but feeling more alone. The universe always gives us what we need most at every given moment and the angels work through everyday peoples choice to act and their pets.

Thank you, I said silently in my head.

Good Word to start the week. Larry

AMEN……..

True or not, this sounds like a good thing for us confident ugly people to tell all those good looking sexy people!

Very true!

Larry I would walk into a burning building if you asked me too! But not eat ice cream…. That’s where I draw the line!
Cory

I love ice cream and I do the grocery shopping at our home. I won’t buy it either, because if it is there I will eat it and lots of it with chocolate syrup and chocolate chips.I have managed to lose 30 pounds in the last year and certainly have a long way to go. I try to make the right choices in purchasing food for our home and it has helped a lot. My kids don’t like some of the changes I have made in purchases at the store, but they aren’t there much anymore with college and living outside of the home these days. I’m working on my personal health and shopping right is a good start.

I agree! when grocery shopping, make sure your not hungry! Stay away from the ICE CREAM!

Every day no matter what!!! Fake it to make it!

I worked at a hedge fund in 2001-02 that I absolutely loved. The people were incredibly talented and every day was exciting, stimulating and fun. But when the market started going down, and the portfolio went down more, the portfolio manager (and owner of the firm) stopped listening to his team. He withdrew, stopped communicating, and started making his own trades w/out feedback or discussion. That worried me far more than the short term results. I lost confidence in him so I left. The fund survived the bear market, but only barely. Years later, in the 2008-09 downturn, that fund fell more than 90%. They survived that too, but all those great people I worked with are long gone.

I once left a company because the owner was so invested in other projects besides that of the company that made the bread and butter. Hardly available if you needed them and had too many other irons in the fire. Seems to me that an owner of a company should take care it first.

Couldn’t/Wouldn’t do what he was requiring me to do.

I left a job a few years ago 1st because I could see how poorly mismanaged the financial side of the buisness was, but under all of that was the knowledge that the owner professed Christian values in his personal life but ran the buisness the opposite of that.

I left my last job due to a variety of reasons. I was salary plus commission working 65-70 hour workweeks and they wanted me to work weekends on top. Most of my hours were spent doing non-commission jobs because they wanted the hourly guys off overtime. To Handle the sales appointments, they allowed the schedulers to quote over the phone and make more commission for themselves, which cut the field sales out of the commission altogether. My territory ran from Ohio to Boston MA. I even missed family funerals because “I already had a route that day”. They consistently took perks away telling us the company was struggling as they kept buying fancy cars and country club memberships. I’ll cut the rant off here but could go on if you want more.

The worst boss I ever had, had zero compassion. My husband was diagnosed with cancer, he underwent 2 major surgeries in a single year, and the following year spent 2 separate weeks in Boston for a chemo-like treatment. I was docked pay, because they claimed they couldn’t tell I had done the work when I wasn’t in the office. In all reality, they never looked or cared to see if the work was completed, but simply didn’t want to pay me for working outside of the office. When he came home from Boston, he was so violently sick, he ended up in the hospital at home for another week. Even before going to the hospital, when I said I needed to stay home with him, the response was “he’s just sick, you don’t need to be with him, we need you in your chair at work more.” I was beyond dumbfounded by the complete and total lack of human compassion. My work was always completed and done well, they just didn’t want to set a precedent for allowing people to work from home. That was by far the most negative work experience I’ve ever had.

I had a chance to take over a small manufacturing company here in Illinois. The owner is 67 years old and would like to retire. I agreed to come on board for a year to learn from him and get to know the business. We both agreed that after that year we would talk again about some sort of transition.

I stuck it out for 16 months and then threw in the towel. I had nothing to go to for sure, but I knew I couldn’t spend one more day in that plant.

The owner liked to talk…alot. He would bring key people into meetings and talk (lecture) for over two hours sometimes. This wasn’t every once in a while, it was nearly every day. It was torture. He would talk in circles and we were expected to listen. Often times we would leave the meeting completely depleted of any energy with our minds feeling like total mush.

Leaders who think that a series of lectures that they call meetings are important are weak leaders. A meeting should be about people bringing ideas to the table to discuss, not to try and come up with ideas as the table. Brainstorming is stupid and ineffective. Focused discussion that has a time limit is always preferred. In fact, there is research to back up the fact that when a meeting goes over 20 minutes, you lose everyone.

Talk is cheap. Leaders need to shut up and listen to the people who are on the front lines. Then, LEAD and DIRECT them in a way that benefits everyone.

I guarantee as I type this that the company I left will have a two hour meeting today…about nothing.

A boss (leader) who does not lead by example.

When I built houses I worked for some one who would get upset when I took the initiative to solve a problem when he was not there (even if I did a good job). However when I would instead wait for him to arrive I would get yelled at for not taking the initiative to solve the problem. There are two things wrong with that. First it was a culture of no matter what you did it was wrong. Second, he would never define what we should and shouldn’t do when we were done or stuck and couldn’t get in touch with him. We where told to figure it out but somehow we always seemed to get it wrong no matter the choice.

A good boss is one who communicates with their employees.

I had a boss who would email you to do a job but not define what they wanted done. Today to many people count on the world of cyber to communicate. What ever happened to talking to people?
I believe that talking to your employees gives them a better sense of direction of what they need done and they get to know you as a person. Thus they are happy employee’s which bring’s better production from your employees. Better production, happy employee’s, makes them more money.

Years ago I worked for a guy who trusted no one. I gave him and the business everything I had to give. He would accuse us of taking things, when most of the time he or someone had misplaced them and they would be found later, without any sort of an apology. I just couldn’t work in that type of an environment, so I quit.

I am 53 and yes i have encouter not one but Manny over me with defects both because of my character developed thru difficulties and leaders doit wear difficult. I will mention some of dear problems. Minimizing leaders one that because of fear and lack of trust they stop dear personal grout. Short vision, the live in dear past and present that take away the ability to see the future

I thrive in collaborative communicative honest hardworking but fun settings. I will always go the distance if needed and love to bring value to any of my jobs in terms of better systems and processes. I was in situation where I had vast amount of experience and value but my bosses never met with me, broke meetings time and again, provided no training, no guidance, little communication and withheld important information necessary for me to do my job. The company was run by a CEO who had started the company and ruled by yelling, criticizing and creating a political envt where withholding info gave you power. My bosses were fostered in this system and had no managerial skill. When I tried to volunteer to help in other areas of which I had experience, they were threatened and would cling to their fiefdom and not allow my participation.

I think the most frustrating thing about a “bad boss” is no follow through. In my experiences I have noticed that is a common theme in my career. (especially with sales) To say something to appease the rep to keep them happy and then not make it a priority to them with little to no follow through. It will motivate and make the rep and keep them happy for a couple of days until they realize that they were just words with no action. Words are just words until they are acted upon.

I had a boss who’s favorite quote was “If you want a friend get a dog”

Another boss would receive the sales numbers from the previous month, and if they were under forecast he would walk up and down the hall and say ” I’m gonna fire all your asses if these numbers don’t get better”

Great Motivator

I was working for a company that was going down the tubes! They asked us salespeople to make cold calls on our own time. It was a desperate move and desperation is never very effective. I quit started my own business and never look back!I somehow forgot to say thank you!

In the job I had previous to working for Woods I had a terrible manager, and her management style definitely lead to me searching for other employment. Basically her moods dictated how our work day would go, if she was in a good mood we had no issues, but if she was in a bad mood which was often we would have a super stressful day. She was also very critical over even simple mistakes, while telling us she didn’t expect perfection because we’re human, but she really did expect perfection in an extremely manual data entry position where the likelihood of human error was extremely likely. Meanwhile, if we caught a mistake of hers she would either deny it to the end or just laugh it off as no big deal. Her team was constantly overloaded with work and always given the same amount of time to complete it yet she never supported us, volunteer to help, or had our backs when a simple mistake was made when we were trying to get 12 to 14 hours worth of work done in 8 hours time.

I’m not sure if anyone will see this but I decided to comment anyways. Only instead, I’m going to write about one of may favorite (past) managers. He is a former chef at the Biltmore Estate and his name is Damien Cavicchi. He is now the head of culinary operations for The Blake at Township (assisted living home) and I was the lead server at this time. His very presence sort of demanded respect. Whether he was at our location or not, he always maintained constant communication with our staff and always suggested new ideas, or sent us links to good articles to read (work related), challenged our staff to be better, do better, be creative, stay ahead of the competition, think harder and much more. He showed the staff how far a smile can really go too.
In conclusion, a bad boss is one who doesn’t teach you anything, who doesn’t challenge you, show you the value in serving others, and who doesn’t lead you in the direction that inspires growth.If you’ve worked anywhere and didn’t take anything with you from that job, you may have had a bad boss.