Feel good about YOU

If you don’t feel good about you, you can’t feel good about anyone else either. People that are crabby, insulting, and difficult probably don’t feel good about themselves. So to turn them around, help them feel good about themselves. A compliment, a smile, showing you care about them – something to make them feel good about them. Instantly, they will reciprocate and feel much better about you.

Do what you must to feel good about you, and help others feel good about themselves too.

"Sorry – out of service"

If you’re having trouble and the world is not giving you what you want, maybe it’s because you’re “out of service”.  When we serve others, be a friend, be kind, and solve others’ problems – whether in or out of work, the world will respond in kind.

Are you “in service”?

Be tough on you

The easier you are on yourself, the harder life is on you.

The harder you are on yourself, the easier life is on you.

Not hard criticism or self-talk, but doing hard things.

How are you on you?

"Today we gather to celebrate…"

What will they say about you at your funeral?

What do you WANT them to say?

It’s not too late.

Plan YOUR Life

Many of us spend a tremendous amount of time watching other people live their lives, achieve their dreams, or crash and burn. We spend more time involved with others’ lives than we do with our own.

Time to take control of your life while you still have it.

Right now. It’s yours if you claim it.

Keep your word

What did you say you were going to do? If you say it, you have to do it. Not for anyone else – but for you.

How can anyone else believe in you and trust your word if you don’t even keep your word to yourself?

Don’t throw your words around like trash. You say it – you back it up with action.

You are watching and listening all the time. Be true to you.

What do you think of you?

It matters far more than what others think of you.

How do you think of yourself?

I bet you are living pretty close to how you think about yourself.

Is it time to change that thinking?

Fake it till you become it

In November, I will once again enter the longest non-stop cross country motorcycle race in the world with my son, Tanner – the Baja 1000 in Mexico. As you may know from our movie on YouTube “Into the Dust”, we were a two man team in 2015 and had a great race. Last year we both entered the Ironman Class where you do the whole course on your own. No teammates, just you and your dirt bike and the desert.

In all the years this class has existed, only about 15 people have ever finished this race – ever. If I had finished last year, I’d have become the oldest of them. This year I am trying again. But they have made the course 50% farther than last year – 1260 miles with a 48 hour time limit. To make matters more difficult, they have made it a midnight start; so you can’t get a good night’s sleep before the race.

What self-talk do I have about this? Whatever it is, it matters. We bring about what we think about.

So I put a post-it note on my bathroom mirror “Baja 1000 Ironman Finisher.” That little note has done wonders for me. I see it at the beginning and end of each day. I see myself conquering this course and crossing the finish line.

We need to put foreign thoughts in – ones we wouldn’t usually have. Thoughts that our current selves find hard to believe at first. Ones that represent what we want to be or have happen, not what is happening now. We need to chant, rehearse, repeat and immerse ourselves in these thoughts until we come to believe in them.

The mind cannot tell the difference between an idea that is real and one that is vividly imagined. We have the power to do this, so we have the power to change who we are. 

Fake it until you become it.

The best advice I gave last week

Someone I care about was having some trouble with someone else.  

I told them “conflict cannot continue without your participation.”

It’s something I learned from Wayne Dyer.  When we just give up our attachment or the meaning we assigned – or when we accept (which is not the same as agreeing), we can release ourselves.  

It takes two to disagree.

Stop talking about it

When something bad happens to us, often many of us will tell others all about it – over and over again until everyone knows.  But when we tell the story we are just re-stimulating the negative emotions and the sentiment “this should not be happening to me.”

Sure, sometimes we need to talk things out with someone we trust, but mostly we should let the negativity go and stop bringing it back up for ourselves.

Accept it. Learn from it. Let it go.