Who are you to others?

What do you want people to say about you in the end? 

How about next week?

Keep that in mind today.

What do you value MOST?

“I will prioritize what I value most over what I want right now.”

What you want now is rarely what you value most. 

Most people never discover what they value most until it’s too late.

Where are you leading yourself to?

Being clueless on this subject is good!

If we are to be a high performer we must control our attention. If we are to control our attention we must stay on our agenda, not the rest of the world’s agenda. This means saying no to news, much entertainment, infotainment, and all the light goings on of the world.

We must control our FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out, and be content to appear clueless on popular news. Be ok with not knowing everything that is served up to the public audience. Don’t feel you have to know everything that is going on.

Just say NO

You feel it rise in you.  Anger, jealousy, resentment, envy, hate….

You are human and these emotions are in you for survival in a time that has past. They aren’t very useful anymore.

Say no to destructive emotions. Recognize that you are better, happier and healthier without them, and let them go right through you – into the ether.

Two Tasks

You have two essential tasks in life – to be a good person and pursue an occupation that you enjoy and will give your talent fully in service to others.

How are you doing on those?

The Serenity Prayer in Action

Make the key distinction between that which you can control and that you cannot. 

Ignore what you cannot change (like things that happened in the past). No amount or intensity of getting upset will change it. In fact, that just makes your life more negatively dramatic. 

Instead, focus on what you can control.

Inputs = your life experience

Your brain is floating in fluid in the dark, sequestered in your skull. It has two cameras and two microphones.

What you put in front of those cameras and into those microphones is most of the information your brain has to create your life experience.

 You are in control of most of it. Be selective and choose what goes in very carefully. 

Your Happiness

You are not responsible for others’ happiness. You are responsible for your own.

The purpose of life is to be happy. Being the best version of you is a sure way to get there.

Are you being the best YOU?

Amor Fati

When we resist what happens, and say it shouldn’t happen to us, and it doesn’t match our own uninformed expectations, we suffer. 

Instead, love what happens; love your fate.  Make friends with what is.

Amor fati.

Your story runs your show

It’s not what happens that is the problem, but people’s thoughts about what happens. – Epictitus

OK, it happened.  It wasn’t ideal. It’s not what I wanted.  It was embarrassing/humiliating/disappointing/broke my heart.

This stuff happens to all of us.  But it happened once.  Yet, how many times will we relive it?  Will we give it permission to define us?  Will we play small because of it? 

Or will it be our fuel to get better?  Will we learn.  Will we say “I know how to do it different/better/ smarter now?

It happened – it’s your choice what to do with it.