There is a conversation going on in your head and it’s not necessarily productive to where you want to go, who you want to be, and what you want to do. It may come from beliefs you’ve had for a long time. It may be reinforcing a decision you made because of what happened one time, that isn’t necessarily true.
Notice. Do you hear it? If it’s not helping, call it out and say “that is not right, it’s hurting me”, and overwrite it with a new decision and a new belief that will drive a new conversation in your head.