Some people are “Superdriven.” Their mind goes all the time and their bodies follow. They are “on” most of the time and going as fast as they can.
While this sounds great for goal achieving, it also makes them prone to burnout. If you are one of these people, recognize and get to know yourself. Stop and ask how you are feeling and what effect your pace and thinking is having on you. Throttle back before you “have to.” (Ask if there is something you are afraid of that is making you go like this. Is this fear valid?)
With maturity you will recognize that this strategy is admirable in some circumstances, but not necessary and maybe even not helpful in many others. Prioritize. It’s not about quantity of tasks completed. Results are from discerning what the right highest priority tasks are and completing those.
Hey Larry,
I like your reference to motocross?
How did you and Tanner do in the Baha??
Emotional manipulation is my sore spot because I can pick up on it. I understand that it is a good selling strategy but it is still a personal soft spot for me. My childhood was a bit cloudy and I had no choice but weather the storms. I know there are many other people in my shoes.
My childhood dream was to become a wife and have a family. The children never came. But the life I was living was jam packed with stress. The children would come to my mind every so often but somehow I always found a way to make peace with not having any of my own. Work became my life. I was a workaholic for a long time. Working as hard as I could to make a team successful, including my husband.
Up until a couple months ago all I wanted was to get a job to build a somewhat independent life. I forgot about children until my emotions were triggered and I plunged into a dark hole and landed on a crucifix. It felt like someone nailed a wooden stake through my heart and this warm thick fog escaped and traveled down to my abdomen in the form of the strongest kick I ever felt. Both my ovaries were burning for a long time and I knew it was the end of all my biological children. I had to make peace with it and accept it. I made a mistake because I let myself be triggered and became emotional. I was trying to get over it and not hold a grudge but the triggers kept coming.
Why am I writing about this weird private experience? Because emotionally triggering people to influence them is dangerous. People are different and they react differently to emotions.
My desire was to have a family. I try to channel this desire into my work because it helps building a stronger team if I think about them as my children. Being on the top is not fun. The leader constantly stands in front of the execution wall. Knowing this makes me feel more compassionate towards them.
I always gave all I got and more to make it work and help others until I burned out over and over several times. So when I make an attempt to stroll in the woods and keep a healthy balanced life it is because I personally know the dangers of one that is not balanced. Sleep is important. Diet – Exercise but most important is to have a few authentic friendships where one can be shamelessly themselves.